Would you rather stay in a commitment with one person even if you don’t feel the same way he does for you? Or, would you break up, and get close to someone else even if there is only vagueness in the feelings you have for each other?
Would you rather be the one who loves or the one who will be loved?
Let us take these two options into consideration.
First, you stay in the commitment. There, you can feel security. You know that you are being loved. There, you are sure of what the other person is feeling. You know there is someone you can run to. The point is that person’s feelings for you are clear, and you know that you are loved.
Second, you break up and get closer to someone else. Wake up! You don’t feel happy in that relationship anymore. You two can be friends, and if you break up, at least he’ll know the truth. It would be too hard on him if you continually lie about “loving” him. I guess the other person is already your friend, and you feel really comfortable with him. You act sweet to him and he’s also sweet to you. BUT, there is no clarity between you and that other person. You really don’t know what he is truly feeling. Well, at least you’re happier with that person. Wouldn’t it be easier to build a relationship with someone you’re comfortable doing anything with than with someone whom you can label but you don’t really have feelings for?
It’s not really about the ease or comfort of DOING things. It’s about the ease and comfort of BEING with a person. It is also about what you truly feel. There’s no use in lying to yourself. It will just hurt you and the people who really love you (well, not necessarily romantically).
You can choose, and make sure that choice of yours is something your heart and mind has finally decided upon.
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